Private, judgment-free guidance for non-monogamy, polyamory and kink — in person in San Francisco or online, wherever you are.
Book a First Step Session45 minutes to map where you are and what you want. The $95 fee goes toward any package you choose within 30 days.
Kate recommends a single session or a package that fits your goals, your pace and your budget.
Meet in person in San Francisco or online from anywhere. Packages include check-ins between sessions.
$95
Not sure where to start? In 45 minutes we map where you are, what you want, and the first moves that make sense for you. You’ll leave with clarity, and if we keep working together, the full fee goes toward your package.
Book a First Step Session$195
Focused one-to-one time for whatever is in front of you right now: a conversation you’re dreading, a new dynamic, jealousy that won’t settle, or a desire you haven’t said out loud yet.
Get started$265
For partners navigating a change together — opening up, renegotiating agreements, or rebuilding trust after a rough patch. Kate keeps the conversation honest, fair and moving forward.
Get started$325
For throuples, polycules and chosen families who want a neutral guide for the conversations that matter: time, boundaries, priorities, and making room for everyone.
Get startedThe better way to work on something bigger: a plan, a steady rhythm, and check-ins between sessions so you’re never stuck waiting for the next one.
$695
✓ Four 60-minute sessions
✓ Message check-ins between sessions
✓ A plan that adjusts as you go
Four sessions to go from curious to confident, at a pace that suits you.
Begin with a First Step Session$1,295
✓ Eight 60-minute sessions
✓ Message check-ins between sessions
✓ Room for bigger changes
For a new relationship structure, a dynamic you want to build properly, or a long-held part of yourself you’re ready to live out.
Begin with a First Step Session$1,195
✓ A private 60-minute session for each partner
✓ Four 75-minute joint sessions
✓ Groups of three: $1,595 (save $290); each extra person +$175
A structured path for couples considering an open relationship. Both voices are heard first, then you design agreements you both actually want.
Begin with a First Step SessionA relaxed, small-group introduction to the language, options and etiquette of kink and non-monogamy. Two hours online, up to 12 people. Camera on or off; curiosity welcome.
Payment is taken when you book.
Reschedule free with at least 24 hours’ notice. Later cancellations and no-shows count as a used session.
Package sessions are valid for the period shown with each package.
Online sessions are by video; in-person sessions are in San Francisco.
Coaching isn’t therapy. Kate’s coaching is educational and supportive. It is not psychotherapy, medical care or crisis support. If you need mental-health treatment, please work with a licensed professional. In a crisis in the US, call or text 988.
No physical or sexual services. All sessions are conversation-based. No physical or sexual services of any kind are offered.
Adults only. Clients must be 18 or older.
You talk through where you are, what you want and what is getting in the way. Kate asks questions, offers language and frameworks that have worked for other people, and helps you plan the next conversation or step. Sessions are by video or in person in San Francisco, and every session is conversation-based.
No. Coaching is educational and supportive: it focuses on your goals, communication and practical next steps. It is not psychotherapy, medical care or crisis support. If you need mental-health treatment, please work with a licensed professional; some people do both.
Yes, and it's one of the most common starting points. Each partner is heard, and Kate never pushes anyone toward a lifestyle they don't want. Sometimes the outcome is a clear "not now", and that is a good outcome too.
Adults of any gender and orientation: individuals, couples, throuples, polycules and groups, whether you're simply curious or have been non-monogamous or kinky for years.
A 45-minute First Step Session is $95. Single sessions are $195 for one person, $265 for partners and $325 for groups of three or more. Packages range from $695 to $1,595, and the First Step fee is credited toward any package bought within 30 days.
Yes. Sessions are private and one-to-one (or with the partners you bring), and online sessions use a private video link.
Book a First Step Session online: choose a time and pay when you book. If you would rather write first, use the contact page and Kate will reply by email.