Coaching for couples exploring together
Curious about exploring with other people as a couple? Talk it through with a coach first. Private, judgment-free, online by video.
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What people work on with Kate
Deciding whether to. What each of you is curious about, what you are not, and whether now is the time.
Ground rules. Agreements you both want, written clearly before anything happens.
Considering a third. How to treat everyone involved with honesty and care, including the person you invite.
First events and etiquette. What to expect at a first play party or lifestyle event: consent, boundaries and saying no gracefully.
Jealousy and checking in. What to do with the feelings that show up afterwards, and how to talk about them.
When one partner is unsure. Every voice is heard, and “not now” is a real answer.
What clients say
Discussing intimate matters can often be uncomfortable, whether or not you have a coach, but with Kate, that awkwardness simply disappears. Her friendly demeanor and genuine, straightforward communication style alleviate any potential discomfort my partner and I might have felt, especially when delving into “touchier” topics. Kate approaches conversations without judgment, offering personalized tips and insights that align with our current stage in our journey of exploration. She makes everything feel approachable and exciting, creating a safe and welcoming space for open discussions.
R & S
Navigating the dynamics of ethical non-monogamy alone can be tough. Kate’s coaching techniques helped me to identify exactly what I wanted and needed in my interpersonal relationships, and gave me the strategies needed to move forward on my journey to relationship happiness! Thank you so much Kate!
Dominic D
Despite having lived in many of the world’s most socially progressive cities I have never met someone as knowledgeable or experienced in the many forms of non monogamy as Coach Kate. … This has helped me build a healthy and happy balance between my needs and the needs of my partner.
A L
About Coach Kate
Kate has lived non-monogamy for more than ten years, and has coached individuals and partners through opening up, jealousy, boundaries and new relationship structures. She has supported four couples from their first introduction through to marriage.
Her approach is practical and consent-first. Every partner is heard, nothing is assumed, and nobody is pushed toward a relationship model they don’t want.
How it works
Start with a First Step Session
45 minutes by video to map where you are and what you want. The $95 fee goes toward any package you choose within 30 days.
Get a clear plan
Kate recommends a single session or a package that fits your goals, your pace and your budget.
Work together, your way
Meet online from anywhere, or in person in San Francisco. Packages include check-ins between sessions.
First Step Session
$95
Not sure where to start? In 45 minutes we map where you are, what you want, and the first moves that make sense for you. You’ll leave with clarity, and if we keep working together, the full fee goes toward your package.
Book a First Step SessionQuestions people ask
We have never done this before. Is that all right?
Yes. Many couples start at the talking stage. A First Step Session is 45 minutes by video: you talk through what each of you is curious about, what worries you and what would have to be true first. It is for questions, not commitments.
My partner is curious and I’m not sure. Can we still come?
Yes, and it’s one of the most common starting points. Each partner is heard, and Kate never pushes anyone toward a lifestyle they don’t want. Sometimes the outcome is a clear “not now”, and that is a good outcome too.
Is this therapy, or anything hands-on?
No. Coaching is educational and conversation-based: it focuses on your goals, communication and practical next steps. It is not psychotherapy, medical care or crisis support, and there are no physical or sexual services of any kind. If you need mental-health treatment, please work with a licensed professional; some people do both.
Is it confidential?
Yes. Sessions are private and one-to-one (or with the partners you bring). Online sessions use a private video link and are never recorded.
What does it cost after the first session?
Single sessions are $195 for one person and $265 for partners. Packages start at $695, and the $95 First Step fee is credited toward any package bought within 30 days. See all options and prices.
Start with one conversation
Book a 45-minute First Step Session with Kate. You’ll leave with a clearer picture of where you are and what to do next.
Book a First Step Session
Adults only (18+) · No physical or sexual services.